Is your age showing? Are you anxious because you are acting older than you are, feeling older, or are you becoming irrelevant and invisible?
You are showing your age if you buy into the clichés of aging. If you are, it’s time to let go of your fears and anxieties. It’s time you turn your life into an enjoyable journey where you are the featured player where you develop ideas about living joyfully and expansively in the future. Transitioning to 60
In your 50s and 60s, you gradually encounter a few magical, mystical hormonal changes that alter your mental, emotional, or physical state. At the same time, the depletion in your neurotransmitters encourages an increasingly negative mindset. You think, “Wow! I’m over 60. I’m hitting 70!” And you imagine your life will suddenly be different and not as remarkable. You can hold on to your unfounded fears about aging or get better with age and acknowledge that there are other ways to expand your ideas about aging.
I’m still 19 in my head. I don’t entertain chronology. As the years go by, I become more conscious, energetic, and inclined to take a risk and determine my intentions and goals. I’m finally becoming the person I always should have been. As I turn 80 this year, I am more in tune with myself. I’m not another version of myself. I’m living through a more profound place inside myself with an appreciation for unstructured times, meaningful change, and for self-reflection that brings knowledge, understanding, and wisdom.
Lighten Up on the Negative Aspects of Life
Stop thinking that aging is associated with sickness and death. Have you noticed that as people age, there are many more references to their aches and pains? Sharing endlessly with friends, neighbors, and strangers about negative states – physically, mentally, or emotionally – is enervating. Keep the exchange of information brief and appropriate to the situation. It’s natural to live with opposing forces in nature; however, negativity steals your joy and does not directly contribute to a healthy, wise, and productive life.
My mother never complained, even into her 90s. If she ever had an ache or a pain, I never knew about it. She was always young and spirited. Rarely did she talk about death. She left all that to the powers that be in the universe. I want to be like my mother.
Aging with Grace and Imagination
Undoubtedly, aging takes courage and commitment, and above all, aging takes grace – the grace of knowing yourself. That’s real liberation! That’s a no-guilt approach to living. Consider that aging with consciousness should be your life’s work.
To age well also takes imagination. Where do you want to travel? Who do you want to go with? Plan one big vacation a year, then do puddle hops during the rest of the year. Develop ideas for favorite travel. Think explorer! Learn to say yes and experience something new.
Keep Learning/Move Forward
The most egregious way to show your age is being mired in the past. That limits your thinking. Moving forward in life is the way you stay young. It involves gaining intelligence, knowledge, emotional growth, and life experiences.
Combining imagination with the freedom to think and dream elevates your ability to respond to complex situations, define problems, project possibilities and outcomes, and approach new situations. Challenge yourself to follow your dreams!
Joan Frances Moran is a creative thought leader exploding with the potential of now. A lifelong learner with an unrelenting curiosity, Joan started teaching yoga at 60 and unlocked the key to cultivating daily happiness. Her signature headstand is not the only thing that leaves audiences in awe.